Sunday, July 20, 2014

(Un)Common Sense

July 20, 2014
Community Christian Church of Springfield, MO
Roger Ray, pastor

Voltaire - Would it not be that which taught much morality and very little dogma? That which tended to make men just without making them absurd? That which did not order one to believe in things that are impossible, contradictory, injurious to divinity, and pernicious to mankind, and which dared not menace with eternal punishment anyone possessing common sense? Would it not be that which did not uphold its belief with executioners, and did not inundate the earth with blood on account of unintelligible sophism? Which taught only the worship of one god, justice, tolerance, and humanity?

In the decade before the Revolutionary War began here in America, the seeds of revolution were being planted by the modern Enlightenment all over Europe.  The very dramatic social reformation seen in French Revolution took place after the former British Colonies in the Americas had won their independence but the movement had been gaining steam for a generation.

There are always those who resist substantive change.  Albert Einstein said, "Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocre minds. The latter cannot understand it when a [person] does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses their intelligence."  But when you question the basic assumptions of a society's mythology, you can expect that opposition to be very fierce.

On the first of July in 1766, the Parliament in Paris carried out the torture, beheading, immolation and scattering of the ashes of a nineteen year old man, The chevalier de La Barre.  He was charged with failing to doff his hat in the presence of the Holy Host and of singing racy songs but the real offense for which this young man gave his life was that he was found to be in possession of this book:  Voltaire's Philosophical Dictionary.

Voltaire published this book 250 years ago and it was almost immediately the target for church and government sponsored book burning.  I would hazard a guess that it is not a favorite read among government officials today and I doubt that it would be found in any church libraries or offices here in town, other than, of course, ours.

Voltaire challenged the authority of the church and of the royalty in both plays and books and because that way of thinking challenged the established order of society, he had to live in virtual exile to avoid execution.  Perhaps we are less likely to torture, behead, burn, and scatter the ashes of free thinkers in our day but, believe me, corporations, the media, the government, and the institutional church still have ways of silencing opposition... some of which make beheading sound inviting.

But at least for us, this voice of common sense and critical thinking, not only does not pose a threat but we can look to him for inspiration.  He did not want to do away with religion, he just wanted religion to be sane and intelligent.  He preferred for religious instruction to teach morality rather than dogmatic beliefs.

He thought that being a church goer should help to make people more just rather than more absurd.  He said that the church should not "order one to believe in things that are impossible, contradictory, injurious to divinity, and pernicious to humankind" and he added that we shouldn't threaten people with being sent into eternal torment for thinking rationally about these things.

I was asked to preside at a funeral service recently for a man who had been a long time reader of my newspaper columns but who had never gone to church and was not very tolerant of religious beliefs.
The family wanted me to do the service which I was glad to do, and in honor of the deceased, I spoke about his personal choice to do what Voltaire had suggested... he gave years of his life working for the poor in Appalachia and then came back to Springfield owned a book store in a north side neighborhood where he tried to foster a love of learning among some of our city's most impoverished students.... But he didn't have much use for religious beliefs and speculations.

You have all been to enough Ozark funerals to know the routine.... Some people want to keep the casket open during the service and at the end, the minister is supposed to go stand by the coffin and there is a solemn procession during which everyone in the room is supposed to make a respectful pass by the body, shake the minister's hand and depart.

At this funeral, the first person out of her chair was a white-haired little woman who charged up to me, took my hand and stood on tip-toes to whisper in my ear, "I think you are a (explicative deleted) idiot."  I'm sure Jesus was proud of her eloquent defense of traditional religion.....  People often have very angry reactions to having their mythology challenged.

There was a research project recently published in the July issue of Cognitive Science that showed that children who are not exposed to religious training can more easily tell the difference between reality and imagination.  I'm sorry that they didn't conduct the research on adults because it seems to me that traditional religion skews the ability of many adults to be able to clearly remain oriented to reality.

I've talked a lot about evidence based faith, about discarding magic and superstition in favor of what can rationally be known and intelligently discussed, but it is not just religion that participates in irrational superstition.
Politics does too.  There is such a thing as an American myth that is often obvious to people in other nations but rather less obvious to us.

There was a tragic event a couple of days ago that has been heavily reported in the news.  As if Malaysian airlines needed another catastrophe after losing an airplane in March, another of their planes was shot down over the Ukraine on Thursday.  I have heard reports on several different media as people have speculated about whether this was the fault of Russia, the government of Ukraine, or, the apparently more likely guilty parties, the insurgents in the Ukraine.

I have heard a lot of anger about how irresponsible Vladimir Putin has been to arm these insurgents, many of whom have described the insurgents in ways that make it sound like someone gave their 13 year old the keys to the family car with a cooler of beer and a bunch of fireworks.

What I have not heard referenced in any of the public discussion of this tragedy is that our highly trained, very professional navy on board the USS Vincennes, while it was illegally in Iranian waters in the Persian Gulf in 1988, accidentally shot down an Iranian passenger jet, killing nearly 300 innocent civilians.

This has happened about a dozen times since 1980.  In almost every case, this happens when a commercial airplane is flying near a military conflict.  Unlike this most recent incident, when the US makes a horrible mistake like this, we are quick to apologize and make some financial reparations.
The people in the Ukraine now appear to be destroying evidence while Russia is feigning ignorance of the circumstances.  But what I find lacking in the conversation is any humility about the fact that we have done the exact same thing.  Virtually all of us here today were adults in 1988.... Did you even remember the incident with the Vincennes and the Iranian airliner?

I'm not wanting to white wash the incident, but in any rational analysis, we have to say that these things happen when you put these kinds of weapons into hostile arenas.  What we should be talking about is how to settle the disputes among the nations of the world before we start passing off surface to air missiles to the political equivalent of drunk teenagers.

Tensions have risen to a crescendo in the Gaza Strip again, provoking the firing of hundreds of totally ineffective Syrian made rockets at Israel.  No one has been killed in Israel from these very low-tech weapons but they have managed to provoke Israel into armed and very lethal response. Our media seems to view these things in about the same way that they covered the world cup, wanting us to take sides.

Even NPR broadcast an Intelligence Squared debate this week to argue whether Israel or Hamas was to be blamed for this violence.  Ironically, it was not a new recording, it was replayed from a debate they held in 2006..... that's right.... Eight years old and still just pointing fingers to say that it is all the other guy's fault.

The conflict between Israel and Hamas is not a religious problem.  It is a real estate problem expressed in religious language.  The conflict in the Ukraine is not a cultural or a language conflict.  It is, at its root, an economic control issue.

The real resolution to our historical wars with England, Japan, and Germany happened when we became economic trading partners.  Now they are our closest allies.  Imagine what could happen if we applied that same rational logic to Cuba.  Imagine what could have been done to resolve the real estate problem in Palestine if we had spent a tenth as much money on the real problem as we have spent on military solutions that never provide solutions.

Voltaire asked his countrymen to give up on a religion that required executioners to enforce their dogma, and that inundated the earth with blood fighting over entirely unintelligible religious claims.  Before you think about beheading, burning me, and scattering my ashes, I'm just saying that maybe we should give rational thinking a chance.

Sunday, July 13, 2014

Escape from Suffering

July 13, 2014
Community Christian Church of Springfield, MO
Roger Ray, pastor


    Buddhism's Four Noble Truths

1. Suffering exists

2. Suffering arises from attachment to desires

3. Suffering ceases when attachment to desire ceases

4. Freedom from suffering is possible by practicing the spiritual path

Reality TV shows have proven to be real money makers for networks.  They capitalize on American's innate voyeuristic tendencies, by producing programs that appeal to that same swath of society that slows down to stare at automobile accidents.  From Survivor type contests, to bachelor and bachelorette dating shows, to this current spate of offerings about the junk people put in storage units and the life threatening junk that people pile up in their houses.

In some ways, I think that this sort of programming is like taking the moral pulse of the nation.  There is a form of philosophical argument called "Reductio ad absurdum" or "reduced to the point of absurdity."  What we see in a lot of reality TV is a reflection of our society in a mirror, and, in most ways, it is a fun house mirror that exaggerates our features.

Over the past two generations, most manufactured goods have become more affordable.  Houses built fifty years ago had fairly small closets but most people managed their lives just fine.  But as things like shoes and clothes became more affordable, our demand for them grew.  Walk in closets were a rare luxury 40 years ago and now even the smallest apartments have them because we have more stuff than we used to have.

Hoarding is an illness and not a form of TV entertainment.  It is an illness that has several possible mental health issues involved.  Most people tend to talk about it as an obsessive-compulsive behavior and while that is certainly a part of it, that is not the only thing going on in most cases.

As a pastor from those old days when a big part of our job was to go visit members in their homes, I can tell you that I have seen a lot of hoarding.  Often times the people who live in these homes emerge from the crowded filth in which they live, properly attired and sweet smelling but the truth of their existence is that they are surrounded by cans of out of date food, stacks of old newspapers and magazines, bags of clothes, and often even used tires, empty bottles and plastic boxes

I suppose people may watch some of those shows so that they can assure themselves that they are at least not that bad but I would like to suggest that the presence of so many hoarders in the midst of our consumer society is nothing more than the reductio ad absurdum argument that reveals the sickness of our own society.  Hoarders are the extreme version of almost all of us who collect, store, save, and attach ourselves to way too many things.                

I used the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism as our wisdom text today because I believe that progressive Christianity and Buddhism have a great deal in common and as such, there is a lot that we can learn from this ancient faith.

The first of the four noble truths is translated in many different ways but essentially it says that life is full of suffering, or that life is suffering.
The second flatly states that the source of all suffering is our desire for, our attachment to things, people, power, or maybe even life.  The third noble truth tells us that the way out of suffering is through detachment.

Clearly, detachment is the opposite of what our consumer society is built upon.  Commercials, advertisements, are scientifically designed to make us want to buy, own, use, and ultimately store, more and more stuff.

Advertisements show us young, beautiful, sexy, and happy people, suggesting that the source of their youth, beauty, sex appeal and joy is the car they are driving, the beer they are drinking, the clothes they are wearing, or the vacation they are taking.

If you will allow me to take this through a reductio ad absurdum, I want to apply this to a couple of other issues.  This part of the country is one of several that claims to be the meth capital of America.  It is not a distinction we should compete for but if we are not the largest consumers of meth in America, we are certainly ahead of whoever is in second place.

What does meth do to users?  It intensifies pleasures for a period of several hours.... A rush of energy, sexual potency, strength and euphoria... but at the same time it burns up the neuro receptors in the brain that make pleasure possible.  The high is so intense that it makes not being on the drug intolerable, addicting first time users at a nearly unbelievable rate.

But a long time user of meth is never again able to take pleasure in normal living.... The part of their brain that allows them to experience joy and happiness has been so damaged that only an artificial drug experience can stimulate them.  These people not only are no longer able to enjoy a song on the radio, a summer sunset, or the smell of baking bread.... They often stop caring about their own children or their own bodies.  Using meth is like setting your own house on fire because you are cold.... It temporarily solves a small problem while creating a catastrophe.

Meth addiction is extreme, but it is the tail end of a society that constantly seeks some kind of artificial pleasure while ignoring the simple pleasures of family, nature, friendship, art, music, and the wonder of a star filled sky.  When was the last time you went to the art museum to enjoy something beautiful that you could not buy?  See, we go to the mall to buy what we like, but there is hardly a category left in our brains for loving something that is beautiful even if it can never be hung on the wall of your own living room.  Our society consumes, we are not especially good at simply enjoying or appreciating life.

I am guilty of having my smart phone in my hands way too much but isn't it obvious that there is no cell phone app that is anywhere near as fascinating as the flowers at the Japanese stroll garden in our park, or the stars on a clear night.... But Americans are spending more than $16 million dollars a year for more time on the popular Candy Crush app.  How crazy is that?

And if you will allow me one more illustration:  I'm not a prude and I'm not a puritan but I am concerned about the pornography industry.  It trains its viewers to have absolutely unrealistic appetites for people with exaggerated sexual features, bodies, and abilities.
It deadens a person's appreciation of the intrinsic value of the touch and appearance of an aging spouse who has supported you, raised children with you, and kept a home with you.  You don't have to nurture feelings of attraction for your spouse, you can just take a pill, watch a video.... And evidently end up sitting in side-by-side bathtubs out in the woods somewhere.... I've been single for a long time so I have no idea that that last part is even supposed to be about.

And, I'll have to ask our internet audience to sit up straight and start listening again... I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest that there is a close similarity between pornography and fundamentalist religion.  Fundamentalists and traditionalists demand that mortal life is only a beginning, a drop in the bucket.  They refuse to accept that their time is limited and so, like a hoarder, like an addict, they want to hold onto their existence for all of time.... Real life is not enough.  The 364 sunsets they are given every year, the sunsets they almost always ignore, should, in their minds, be endless for them.  Other religions find this greedy view offensive.... I think it is like a porn addiction in which reality is always inadequate. You have my permission to disagree with me, even though this thought is going to revisit your awareness every time you hear someone confidently speaking of life after death whether you want it to or not.  Once a mind has been stretched to apprehend a new idea, it never goes back to its original shape.

But let me get back to the Buddhist path: The tradition about the life of the Buddha was that he was born to wealth but when he became aware of the suffering of the poor, he could not longer live in the isolation and comfort of the aristocracy.  So he became an ascetic monk, living at the point of starvation and dehydration for years.  Eventually he realized that both opulent wealth and extreme poverty are deceptions.

He taught that the body is a vessel that requires nourishment, rest, and care.  He encouraged his followers to find a middle path, a life of moderation in all things but no extremes of either indulgence or self-abnegation.  There is absurdity at both ends, both for us as individuals and for our civilization.

Buddhism, unlike Christianity, is not wedded to a set of creedal claims that followers are supposed to simply believe.  Buddhism finds deep spirituality in a passionate devotion to the truth.  Following the eight fold path, which is the fourth of the Noble Truths, should not sound foreign to the ears of progressive Christians.

The eight-fold path is about living a spiritual life, a life of disciplined moderation and devotion to leading a good and helpful life.  The path guides you to a right perspective, right thought, right speech, right action, right livelihood, sincere effort, mindfulness, and awareness.   Perhaps I will have a chance to talk more about the eight-fold path later this summer.

I suppose that most religions have a kind of centering mantra that practitioners can return to in times of worry or trouble.  Jews and some Christians would recite the 23rd Psalm, "The Lord is my shepherd," and Christians often simply recite the Lord's Prayer, "Our Father, which art in heaven."
And we know that Muslims of all stripes will say simply, "Allahu akbar," which means, "God is great," though I think it can be more accurately rendered, "God is greater,".... Greater than what frightens me, greater than the obstacles before me.

The mantra often repeated in Buddhism, I find to be the most attractive of all of the world's religious traditions.  I won't try to say it all in the Burmese language but there are a couple of words I would like for you to know.  I apologize for all of the numbers in this sermon.... The four noble truths and the eight fold path but there is a final number, the three jewels or three treasures of Buddhism.

The first is the Buddha, who is the teacher.  The second is the Dharma, which is the teaching of the teacher or, more accurately, simply, the truth.  The third is called the Sangha, or community.  When someone is becoming a Buddhist or being ordained as a monk, they repeat the mantra:
I take refuge in the Buddha
I take refuge in the Dharma
I take refuge in the Sangha
I find my peace, my security, I find my faith in the teacher, and in a dedication to what is true.  Finally, I find my refuge, my certainty, my confidence and my courage, in my faith community.

We live in a world that is seriously out of balance.  The predominant religions of the world create terrorists, suicide bombers, misogynists, homophobes and the worst may be that they create indifference about real world suffering by obsessing about other worldly eternity.
We live among consumers, hoarders, out of control capitalists, corporations that can influence elections and even have a religion though still lacking a moral compass.

For your own sake and for the sake of the world and its future, I encourage you to find a middle path, a path of mindful, disciplined living and let us together take refuge in what is true and find refuge in one another.

Sunday, July 6, 2014

Towards a More Healthy Life

Proper 9    July 6, 2014
Community Christian Church
Roger Ray, pastor

Matthew 11:16-19, 28-30      

"But to what will I compare this generation? It is like children sitting in the marketplaces and calling to one another, 'We played the flute for you, and you did not dance; we wailed, and you did not mourn.' For John came neither eating nor drinking, and they say, 'He has a demon'; the Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, 'Look, a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!' Yet wisdom is vindicated by her deeds."

"Come to me, all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."

Two people in the news this week have died from the most painful and horrifying manner known to us.  A sixteen-year-old Palestinian boy, Muhammad Hussein Abu Khdeir, was captured and burned alive, presumably in retaliation for the abduction and murder of three Israeli youths last month.  The other was a retired Methodist pastor, Charles Moore, of Texas, who doused himself with gasoline and set himself on fire.

The young man who died in a murderous immolation is just the most recent in a sixty yearlong violent conflict between Palestinian Muslims and Israeli Jews.  The provocations behind this long and violent feud are real and yet workable solutions have been staring these two tribes in the face for three generations but the solutions elusive in an environment of sick religion, hate-speech, and unending escalation of passionate emotions that deny facts in favor of nurturing resentments, hostility, and a desire for bloody revenge.

Pastor Miller, on the other hand, took his own life.  He was not, by his own reporting, mentally ill.  He described himself as being desperate to draw attention to the unhealthy aspects of American divisions, irrational hostility, and heated, violent, divisions.

On the face of it, these two deaths couldn't be more different.  One was murder and the other was suicide.  What has made me think of them together is not simply because they both died in fire but because they both died because of the intransigence of the world's commitment to unhealthy, inflammatory, prejudice and hatred.  One was a murder among two rival clans that just can't seem to let of their need for revenge long enough to stop the violence.  The other was a suicide, a final, extreme, and, I will say, a misguided effort to draw the nation's attention to the insane divisions that have haunted us for generations.

There is a saying in Alcoholics Anonymous that says:  Don't tell me how sick you have been.  Tell me how well you want to be. When guys are trying to establish their reputation in an AA group, they will often tell stories; wild, fanciful, exaggerated stories, about how much they used to drink.  Meeting time can be wasted, week after week, if they let that stuff go on, glorifying, and bragging about their drinking days.  And so, to bring such story telling to a compassionate end, someone will just say: "Don't tell me how sick you have been.  Tell me how well you want to be."

AA works for the people who really work the program because, in very simple, single sentence distillations of both psychology and spirituality, it keeps inviting people to choose health over illness, sanity over insanity, live over death.  The program depends upon individual members of the group making the decision for themselves that they want to be health. They have to choose physical health, mental health, and spiritual health.  They know that they have a disease that will surely kill them if they don't get healthy. Everyone who has spent any time in AA can list the people they know who drank themselves to death.

I attended a lot of meetings when I was a hospital chaplain working on the addiction unit.  An epiphany came to me one evening when an elderly woman who had been sober for 30 years said, "I'm glad that I am an alcoholic because my drinking forced me to find this path to health."  She went on to describe the insanity of a very sick marriage that led to very bad parenting.  But it was the drunk driving arrests and trips to the emergency room that forced her into recovery.  The illness gave her the reason to change, to choose health.

So that phrase, "Don't tell me how sick you've been, tell me how well you want to be," has stuck with me through the years.  Many years ago when I was trying to deal with some very irrational conflict in the church where I was the pastor, the time for electing church leaders came up.  We had some real stinkers in that church that had run off pastors and associate pastors for years.  Creating drama, feeding gossip, and constantly trying to keep something stirred up.  But they were long time members, and contributors, so they always got re-elected to the board.

But one year I read the job description for elders in this Disciples of Christ church. The elders, it said, were to nurture the spiritual health of the congregation.  And I thought, a couple of these guys have been pouring poison in the well for decades.... They are not leaders; they are agitators, perpetual critics, and dishonest ones at that.

So I said to the nominating committee, let's only nominate congregational leaders who have helped the church to be healthy and refuse to re-elect anyone who has demonstrated that they would rather be unhealthy.

It was a novel and radical idea in that church as I suspect that it would be seen as a radical suggestion in most of the churches in our nation.

The committee immediately responded, "You can't do that!"  And they named two or three people who were going to be very upset if they were not re-elected.  And I insisted, if you are going to nominate anyone to take a board position, you need to be able to describe how they have helped to nurture the health of the congregation, so, none of those agitators were ever re-elected.

And they were angry and they tried to find backdoor ways to become influential again. I can see that there were long connecting lines between that decision to choose health over perpetual melodrama that lead to the end of my relationship with that church but I still defend it as being the right decision.  I would rather be healthy than to find a way to survive in crazy-town.

Any gathering of people can become toxic because the relationships become sick.  That's why there are spouse abuse shelters and runaway centers for families that have become toxic.

There was an entire department at MSU that was just shut down because the tenured professors had fallen into a level of melodrama that escalated to career and character assassination so that no student could survive the program.  Huge and successful law firms here in town have split up and damaged the reputations and practices of everyone involved because the emotional environment had become sick.

Churches can be especially vulnerable to this because churches are voluntary organizations.  There are over 300 churches in Springfield... no one is forced to attend any of them but anyone could change churches every few weeks and never run out of other options in a single lifetime.

Some people are only satisfied by melodrama on the level of human sacrifice... and it doesn't matter what the real issues are. In counseling, we call this a "conflict habituated" family system.  They feel important and excited when they can create drama.  They use their emotions to control the behaviors of the people around them.  Jesus confronts this behavior in this passage from Matthew we read today.  He says:

"But to what will I compare this generation? It is like children sitting in the marketplaces and calling to one another, 'We played the flute for you, and you did not dance; we wailed, and you did not mourn.'

Literally, "I was upset but you still didn't do what I wanted you to do." Because, in crazy-town logic, if I am upset, you have to change.  In this insanity, I am not responsible for my moods, feelings, emotions.... You are and you have to be something different or do something differently in order to satisfy my expectations.  At one level, this is just emotional manipulation, but it can become emotional terrorism.

Many people who find themselves in emotionally manipulative relationships at home, at work, at school, in politics or in church will tell you that they feel like they are always trying to tiptoe on egg shells.  The least little thing can turn into hysterics.

Of course, in some churches, the clergy often feel that they are being asked to tap-dance in a minefield.  They are expected to be scholarly and yet deny virtually all scholarship.  They are to be prophetic but never say anything with which any donor might disagree.  Hence, we have totally irrelevant churches being pastored by people who survive on anti-depressants and Prilosec.

Jesus, in this passage in Matthew, succinctly describes the insanity of trying to satisfy emotional terrorism.  He says:

For John came neither eating nor drinking, and they say, 'He has a demon'; the Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, 'Look, a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!' Yet wisdom is vindicated by her deeds."



The poetic conclusion to this pericope can be read as a plea to return to sanity:

"Come to me, all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."

We wrote in the vision statement for our church when we first opened our doors that it was our goal to create a healthy spiritual community.  In part, because none of us ever wanted to be a part of an unhealthy church community ever again.  And, in part, it was to show other churches that it can be done.  You don't have to perpetuate hostilities.  Israelis and Palestinians don't have to hate each other.  Sunnis and Shi'a don't have to fight each other.  Blacks and whites, Latinos and Anglos, liberals and conservatives, Republicans and Democrats, .... We don't have to keep setting one another on fire.  We don't have to live in conflict for the rest of time.

We can leave Crazy-town if only we can all decide that we like being healthy more than we like the attention and power we think we get from being sick.  Let's see if we cannot show the world how it is done.  Don't tell me how sick you have been.  Tell me how healthy you want to become.